Welcome to The Derelict Tribe!
Who is a “DERELICT”?
The Derelict is a tribe
The Derelict is a tribe of people who were abandoned or neglected from our groups, cliques, families, or friends. We are disparaged, depleted, delinquent souls trying to find our way. We were outcast from our community, many times when it mattered most. We were seen as lacking a sense of duty or being negligent. We “failed”. We went through a “rough patch” or a “midlife crisis”. We have a few failures under our belt and may be in the thick of it right now. And we didn’t know where to turn. Our church, therapist, family, and friends maybe didn’t know how to help, or downright rejected us. We aren’t failures, but we don’t know how to deal with our failures in real time.
I’m a derelict
Hi, I'm Josh!
I’m a derelict. A derelict is defined as something or someone that is “in a very poor condition as a result of disuse and neglect”. Now, before you start feeling sorry for me, I’m not a victim. I don’t live in this identity, but it’s a reality. Shit happens. To all of us. Why do I bring this up? Because I revel in this! It’s made me the strong man I am today! That might seem like a contradiction in terms to you. How can this guy be in “poor condition” and a “strong man”? Let me explain. It’s the experiences that put me in a poor condition that made me a strong man.
I’m a middle-aged man who recently turned 40. I’ve failed at marriage, business, parenting, friendship, you name it- and I’ve learned from all of it! After all, failure is just the next step in success! There is no way to find your true self without owning your derelict nature first!
So why do I mention this? Well, I’m also extremely successful. That’s not a brag, and I don’t mean it in the way you might be thinking. Sure, I’ve made good money (and lost good money). I’ve travelled the world, started and run multiple businesses, have loved and lost. I’m a father of 3 wonderful kids, own a successful financial planning company, am founder and host of The Derelict Podcast talking about masculinity, and spend most of my time mentoring and coaching men. Specifically, men going through divorce. I went through a tragic and contentious divorce myself so I know how awful it can be!
You know what comes with pain though?
GROWTH! Every. Single. Damn. Time.
So, I love opening up about my failures and missteps, because it always turns into growth. It always allows me to get to the next level of my development.
And, more importantly, it helps you, the reader. The ragamuffin derelict who is thinking about going through a divorce or already headed down that path.
Just think about it, who do you want on your side during this difficult time? Someone that just spouts SUCCESS OR DEATH! Or someone that’s willing to get in the muck and deal with failure to move forward to become the BEST POSSIBLE VERSION OF THEMSELVES! I don’t always succeed at this, but I’m committed to it like you wouldn’t believe! For myself first, and then for you!
Welcome. You are not alone. I look forward to working with you and having you join the tribe!